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Commentary: Anxiety related to home buying can be relieved by planning

Written by Christopher G. Cox

In this article written for the Winston-Salem Chronicle, Christopher G. Cox is publisher/managing editor of, talks about the stress of buying a home. 

For most people, the decision to purchase a home is the single biggest financial commitment they will make in a lifetime of decision-making.  Because the decision to buy a home, especially a first home, involves so many competing factors, it can cause high levels of stress and anxiety.

As stress inducing as a home purchase can be, there are things that a prospective homeowner can do to minimize potential headaches.

Ruth Hudspeth, branch manager for Fairway Independent Mortgage Corp., says the Number One thing homebuyers need to do is be prepared. “A homeowner should be able to enjoy their new home without being overburdened by the financial commitment.  Like any other big decision, however, that takes some planning.” she said.

“You have to take the time to understand your credit score, your capacity to qualify for a mortgage loan and what your budget will be,” she added.

Hudspeth, who has degrees in economics and business administration, recommends that individuals moving from a rental property into a home set aside the difference between the mortgage payment and the rent payment and put that money into a separate account.  “If, for example,” she noted, “your mortgage payment is going to be $1,000 a month and your rent has been $500, pay yourself the $500 difference for a while and see how well you handle it.”

A lender might be able to tell you the amount of the mortgage loan you can qualify for, but he can’t tell you how much paying that mortgage will affect your lifestyle. “Buying a home is a big decision,” she says, “and it doesn’t make sense to wait until you are too close to making that decision to educate yourself.”

Dr. Kimya N. Dennis, a criminologist who does work in demographic and cultural variance in mental health, agrees that careful preparation is the key to reducing the stress associated with getting into the housing market. “I encourage people to take time to communicate with everyone involved in the process of purchasing a home,” Dennis said.  “There needs to be open and honest discussion that weighs all the pros and cons.”

Some of subjects that should be discussed, Dennis says, are long- and short-term economic goals, location and commuting time, quality of the construction and access to public transportation.

Dennis also emphasizes the importance of carefully reviewing and understanding all the documents required to purchase a home. As part of that process, she suggests taking advantage of low- and no-cost programs designed to educate homebuyers, such as those offered by the local affiliates of the National Urban League, as well as other community organizations.

“If you want to keep your anxiety level low,” Dennis adds, “you can’t be afraid to ask questions.  And as basic as it sounds, sometimes you just have to take a few minutes to pause and breathe.”  She explains that a common reaction to anxiety is holding one’s breath, especially just before making a big decision. “You might be surprised,” she concludes, “to find out how much it helps to just stop and take a few deep breaths when decisions threaten to become overwhelming.”

About the author


Christopher G. Cox

Christopher G. Cox has over 20 years of experience in the real estate and finance industries. He has understands the complexities and diversity of the real estate market, and he has a passion of helping people realize the American Dream.